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It’s Time To Let Go….. :(


I have never really been a big fan of nostalgia.  Perhaps it’s because my vocations as an adult were always filled with international adventures, plenty of good-byes and fresh starts, accompanied by Velcro roots.   But alas, I now find myself in a place my loved ones complained of as I left their embrace.   My youngest daughter is leaving the nest and this uncomfortable, new sense of nostalgia is invading my soul!

It’s not that this is the first daughter to leave home.  Oh, no.  The older two have come and gone and come back again (as I expect my youngest will too).  But somehow this is different.  It seems that this daughter represents the remnants of a time in our lives that has become thread bare.  Her departure tears at the final strings to the wonderful moments of our nuclear family that can never be lived again.  How sobering!   (There’s the bittersweet longing for things of the past.)

Interestingly, I recall my mom had similar sentiments when I left home.   I also remember asking my mom to be happy for me.  ‘Please let me go with your blessing ‘ I pleaded.  Crazy how words come back to haunt us, although I see the merit in them.  There’s a  time for everything.  As a parent, it’s time to let go!

I also have never really been a big fan of Dr. Seuss.   However, since my heart has committed to let my daughter go with my blessing, the silly, imaginings in ‘Oh the Places You’ll Go‘ somehow seem oh-so appropriate and much less nonsensical.  So, cheers to you Mady!  Today is your day!  Your mountain is waiting…..So…get on your way!

Excerpts from  ‘Oh The Places You’ll Go’ by Dr. Seuss

Today is your day.
You’re off to Great Places!
You’re off and away!

You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose.

Out there things can happen and frequently do
to people as brainy and footsy as you.

You’ll be on your way up!
You’ll be seeing great sights!
You’ll join the high fliers
who soar to high heights.

Except when you don’t.
Because, sometimes, you won’t.

I’m sorry to say so but, sadly, it’s true
that Bang-ups and Hang-ups
can happen to you.

You can get all hung up
in a prickle-ly perch.
And your gang will fly on.
You’ll be left in a Lurch.

You’ll come down from the Lurch
with an unpleasant bump.
And the chances are, then,
that you’ll be in a Slump.

And when you’re in a Slump,
you’re not in for much fun.
Un-slumping yourself
is not easily done.

And when you’re alone, there’s a very good chance
you’ll meet things that scare you right out of your pants.
There are some, down the road between hither and yon,
that can scare you so much you won’t want to go on.

But on you will go
though the weather be foul.
On you will go
though your enemies prowl.
Onward up many
a frightening creek,
though your arms may get sore
and your sneakers may leak.

On and on you will hike,
And I know you’ll hike far
and face up to your problems
whatever they are.

So be sure when you step.
Step with care and great tact
and remember that Life’s
a Great Balancing Act.
Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.

And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed.)

You’re off to Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So…get on your way!

Author: Elaine Olson

Elaine effectively counsels in the area of marriage and family, with specialization in anxiety and stress, decision-making and young adult concerns. Elaine uses a variety of counseling therapies to meet the specific needs of each client. Her insightful approach to life challenges the three-part makeup of humanity, to ensure total wellness, physically, mentally/emotionally and spiritually. She is a strong advocate for women, taking a lead role to pioneer many innovative support programs for women around the world.

5 thoughts on “It’s Time To Let Go….. :(

  1. Elaine:

    Not only are you a very careing doctor, but you make me feel like you are truly a friend of mine.

    When I read something from you, like this one, I realize you are the same as any other mother, when it comes to letting your child go……..it’s hard…..very hard. It doesn’t matter what training you have and have given, she is still your daughter and you have the same feelings as the rest of us mothers.

    My Mum let me go at age 19 to go 3,500 miles from home – but at that time I had only planned on being away for a year. It’s now been over 46 years, but my Mum never regretted what I did – or at least didn’t tell me so! She was just thankful that I had the opportunity to explore a new life and include her in it from time to time by visiting me.

    I wish health, safety, courage and strangth to you all but especially your daughter.

    God Bless.


  2. Thanks so much Avril for your beautiful comments!

  3. Elaine this spoke right to my heart. This is my baby, Julia’s favourite book, to top it off. She has always wanted to go and travel. My heart breaks some-days wishing just one of my four kids were close by but as you asked your mother, I want them to go with my blessings. Fulfill
    their future hopes and dreams.

    Mady, may God bless and fill you with all joy as you trust in Him.

    Blessings to you all

  4. That was beautifully shared…your such an amazing lady, Mom and friend. Bless you in this transition. You have a gift in writing Elaine. God Bless you.

  5. I know just how you feel. Have done that and have gone thru the same with my four children, I am so thankful we can leave them in God’s hands, it is the safest place to be. Love and blessings Jannie

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