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For Better or For Worse

Twenty five years ago today, I walked down the aisle and pledged my life-long vows at the marital altar. Did I know what I was doing, heck no! Words like young, naive and happy came to mind as I reminisced last night. For sure I never would have imagined that the ‘for betters or for worses’ could have been what they have been. (Perhaps the inability to foresee what’s ahead is what keeps young couples making the glassy-eyed procession time and time again.)

Every marriage, bar none, has their own unique set of ‘for betters or for worses’. Sometimes they are unexpected and sometimes planned. They can be both welcomed and despised, bring joy and tears and have desirable and undesirable consequences simultaneously. Whether they are appreciated or not, all married couples experience them and are forced to re-think their definition of ‘for better or for worse’, as a result.

The truth is, our ‘for betters and for worses’ are never a surprise to God. He foreknew what my marriage would experience long before the invitations were sent out. He was aware of the disappointments, the frustrations, the wonders and the challenges as part of His great plan to refine both my husband and I into His image. I find these thoughts comforting. And in the light of His will to give us a hope and a future, I can trust the next 25 years into His hands, for better or for worse.


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The Last 86 Days of 2009!!!!

Has 2009 been the year you expected it to be? For sure it has surpassed my expectations in some ways and fallen short in others. So with 86 days left, I’ve decided to make a list of how I’d like to spend the rest of 2009. Actually my list looks alot like a Point of Grace song, ‘How You Live’.

Wake up to the sunlight with your windows open
Don’t hold in your anger or leave things unspoken
Wear your red dress, use your good dishes
Make a big mess and make lots of wishes

And have what you want, but want what you have
And don’t spend your life looking back

Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances and let it all out
‘Cause you won’t regret it
Looking back from where you have been
‘Cause it’s not who you knew
And it’s not what you did
It’s how you live

So go to the ballgames and go to the ballet
And go see your folks more than just on the holidays
Kiss all your children, dance with your wife
Tell your husband you love him every night

Don’t run from the truth ’cause you can’t get away, no
Face it and you’ll be okay

Oh, wherever you are and wherever you’ve been
Now is the time to begin
So give to the needy, and pray for the grieving
Even when you don’t think that you can
‘Cause all that you do is bound to come back to you
So think of your fellow man
And make peace with God, and make peace with yourself
‘Cause in the end, there’s nobody else

Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances and let it all out
‘Cause you won’t regret it
Looking back from where you have been
‘Cause it’s not who you knew
And it’s not what you did
It’s how you live